Although eulogies are not allowed in our diocese, Father Bernard Lavin, Pastor of Saint
Jude, does allow a Family Remembrance to be given at the beginning of the Mass of Christian Burial.
The Family Remembrance should include only those remembrances suitable in church and ought to focus
on the personal faith of the deceased. Please choose someone you trust who can speak to these
When choosing someone to speak for this important expression, bear in mind that a person with
little or no experience in public speaking will find it extremely difficult to deliver these
thoughts in an effective way. Please choose someone you know to be confident and secure in front
of a large group of people and who knows how to speak clearly and audibly. Only one person will be
allowed to speak on behalf of the family.
Please read these important guidelines:
The Family Remembrance must be type-written and given or sent to Father Lavin for his review.
This is not a time to speak of trivial things, but rather of the faith lived-out by the deceased.
Although it is one person speaking, the preparer of the remembrance should keep the focus on the
life of the deceased and not on that of the person giving the remembrance.
While this is a time when memories are plentiful, brevity and careful choice of words is the best
way to proceed.
Family Remembrances should last no longer than five minutes. This is typically the length of one
and one half sheets of double-spaced typed text.